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Family life and cancer
Cancer and its treatment can affect relationships. Some family relationships suffer, especially if they were already troubled. But many people say that family relationships become stronger and more meaningful. Family can be your safe place, your greatest source of comfort and strength.
Different people have different ideas about who is their family. Family may be your spouse or partner and the people you are related to by blood, such as children, parents, aunts, uncles and cousins. For others, family is simply the people in your life who love and support you.
Changing roles and responsibilities
Cancer can change the roles and responsibilities in your family. When you have cancer, you may have to give up or cut back on some of the things you’ve always done – for example, you may not be able to drive the kids to lessons, cook all the meals or help elderly parents look after their yard. And when your role changes, the roles of others in your family often change as well. The changes that you all need to adjust to often depend on your stage of life.
- Your children may be expected to help more around the house or take on jobs that a parent would have done before.
- You may reverse roles with your adult children who will start taking care of you, the parent.
- If your parents are in good health and able to help you, cancer may make them more involved in your life than they have been in years.
- If you are taking care of your elderly parents, someone else may need to help them while you focus on your own health.
Tips to help everyone cope
Sometimes it’s hard for family members to get used to new roles and responsibilities. The way your family copes with all this change and the feelings that go along with it will depend in part on how you’ve coped with hard times in the past. To help you and your family get through this time, try to:
Make the most of your time together. Talk about how much you mean to each other and express your feelings – love, anxiety, sadness or anger. Don’t worry so much about saying the wrong thing. It’s better to share your feelings than to hide them. And it can help others do the same.
Give feedback when family members try to help. Let them know that you appreciate their help, but be honest about what you need and don’t need. No one in your family – not your partner, parent or child – can read your mind.
Keep family members informed about your health. Being informed can help people cope. Answer any questions people have. Respect the right of family members to agree or disagree with your decisions, but make it clear that they are your decisions to make.
Have regular family meetings to talk about the week ahead. Together you can create a schedule that includes your upcoming medical appointments and treatments as well as other family members’ activities that week. You can make lists of tasks that need to be done and agree on who does what. These meetings can be a good way to spend time together while checking on how everyone is coping. During the meeting, talk about anything – good or bad – affecting family life. Out-of-town family members who want to be involved can be on the phone or can join through video or online chat tools.
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